How to Get Your Ex Back
The first steps...
The first thing to do after a break-up is going to sound a bit strange. It's the total opposite to what you feel you ought to be doing! The first thing you need to do is tell them that you agree with the breakup.
This is even before you start planning how to get your ex back !
||This is very counter-intuitive to many people when I tell them this advice. The reason you want to do this is because it will basically let them know that you aren't completely dependent upon them, and if anything can do even better without them.
Once you tell them you agree with the breakup and are even appreciative of their decision, they're going to wonder what the heck you have going on in your life that would lead you to this attitude. It's a known fact that people want what they can't have. This is a basic psychological characteristic all humans have. Therefore if you tell your ex that they can't have you anymore (at least not right now) you're pushing a psychological button inside of them that will have them more attracted to you. It's the strangest thing but it works.
Once you tell them this, you want to stop all contact from them right away. You want to do this for a few reasons. For one, you want your actions to follow the words you just told your ex. It wouldn't make sense if you told them you agree with the breakup, and the next day you called them 4 times leaving a message saying "Hey I was just wondering what you were up to." Another reason you want to stop contact is to get yourself emotionally healed from the break-up.
During the post-breakup phase, we tend to be a little emotionally wacky and do and say things we would normally NEVER. Therefore when you take some time for yourself, you'll be able to get yourself back on your feet and become the awesome person you were before the breakup. Focus more time on friends, family, your career, and working out. After a bit of time, you will finally start to feel much better about life. Once this occurs, you'll be in a much better position to
work on how to get your ex back.